Here we are almost at the end of 2017, and I haven’t had a date. Which means I am no closer to being married or having a baby. Let that sink in for a minute.
With that being said as hard as I am trying to live and enjoy life, it becomes hard some days because the why not me thoughts creep in.
I know that I will continue to have the “why not me” days because I have always saw myself married with kids, so the feelings will not go away, but as we are about to enter a new year I want those days to be few and far between.
I make a conscious effort every day to be better and happier than I was the day before, but as we all know life/the devil will try to take you down.
So, I did some research to find ways to get into my happy because happy is as happy does.
Work on learning to truly enjoy the present moment…This is a habit that takes work. The findings of Dr. Keltner and his colleagues said if you always look toward tomorrow for happiness, odds are you will do the same when you meet what you’ve been dreaming of. As strange it sounds, the ability to appreciate what’s in front of you has nothing to do with what you actually have. It’s more about how you measure the good things in your life at any given time. Practice wanting what you have and it will feel even sweeter when you eventually have what you want.
Tune into joy…this can improve your health (I’m 40 now, so health is a big deal) -Christopher Peterson, Ph.D. of the University of Michigan, who has studied optimism’s link to health for over twenty years, shows optimistic people have a stronger immune system than their negative counterparts.
Life is too short to sit around and wait for that perfect moment - The “happiness” I’m looking for is not going to fall from the sky. In order to be happy I have to be intentional for happiness.
What does that look like?
· Be willing to step outside my comfort zone.
· Leave old habits and negative thoughts behind.
· Start making simple changes that will enable me to become a happier person day-to-day.
· Stop looking for happiness and start living happiness.
This quote below sums it all up:
“Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means you've decided to look beyond the imperfections. ”Unknown
If you have followed me for a while, then you know my biggest goal was to not live my 40’s the way I lived my 30’s and it’s a daily process but every day it gets better. I will continue to look for ways to live my happy with or without a husband and a baby.
Signed,
Crowned CaNesha (CC)
